RT @sexijamaicanjan RT @TG8S Flirting can be dangerous. But so much fun.
This was a tweet I read from 2 girls on twitter that probably had a whole more bunch of people Retweet and agree.. and led me to wonder wtf is wrong with girls these days. Flirting leads to hurting…less you’re single. Now me knowing that women are never satisfied..it finally hit me, women want it all. They want everything. Reality is, you cant have everything. You can only have what you are willing to give up. Nothing comes without sacrifice in this world. In order to want everything of one thing..you have to be willing to give up everything on the back end. All the single girls complain about how they dont have a man, and the ones with a man secretly wish they were single or able to have there man and still prance around like they are single. The other day on twitter i asked ” What is the definition of flirting? ” here are a few of the answers I got ..
@GlammCrissMIA RT @imDMAC: What’s the definition of Flirting<---enticing another
@moneyyoung RT @imDMAC: What's the definition of Flirting ~ shoning lmao
Marquita Latrice - EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN DEFINTION OF FLIRTING...
WHAT I MIGHT CONSIDER CHEATIN ANOTHER MIGHT NOT..
Tiesha B. Chanel - Showing interest in someone and playful ways
Charlie F Miller - Something that a woman will do that she does not approve of her current partner of doing
Kimberly Carter - When u figure it out let me know, lol
After these answers I decided to do a lil research myself.. And wikipedia answered every question inside the question of flirting..
"Flirt" redirects here. For other uses, see Flirt (disambiguation).
"Would you take offense if I had the gall to plant a kiss on this beautiful shoulder?"
"You'll figure that out soon enough after the deed."Flirting is a common form of social interaction whereby one person obliquely indicates a romantic or sexual interest towards another. It can consist of conversation, body language, or brief physical contact. It may be one-sided or reciprocated (encouraged) with intentions of getting to know that person on a higher level.
Flirting may involve speaking and acting in a way that suggests greater intimacy than is generally considered appropriate to the relationship (or to the amount of time the two people have known each other), without actually saying or doing anything that breaches any serious social norms. This may be accomplished by communicating a sense of playfulness or irony. Double entendres, with one meaning more formally appropriate and another more suggestive, may be used.
While some of the subconscious signs are universal across cultures, flirting etiquette varies significantly across cultures which can lead to misunderstandings. There are differences in how closely people should stand (proxemics), how long to hold eye contact, and so forth.
People flirt for a number of reasons. It is often used as a means of indicating interest and gauging the other person's interest in a relationship. Alternatively, it may simply be a prelude to casual sex. In other situations, it may be done simply for amusement, with no intention of developing any further relationship. This type of flirting sometimes faces disapproval from others, either because it can be misinterpreted as more serious, or it may be viewed as "cheating" if the person is already in a romantic relationship with someone else.
Origin and history
The origin of the word flirt is obscure. The Oxford English Dictionary (first edition) associates it with such onomatopoeic words as flit and flick, emphasizing a lack of seriousness; on the other hand, it has been attributed to the old French conter fleurette, which means "to (try to) seduce" by the dropping of flower petals, that is, "to speak sweet nothings". While old-fashioned, this expression is still used in French, often mockingly, but the English gallicism to flirt has made its way and has now become an anglicism.
During World War II, anthropologist Margaret Mead was working in Britain for the British Ministry of Information and later for the U.S. Office of War Information,[2][3] delivering speeches and writing articles to help the American soldiers better understand the British civilians,[4] and vice versa.[5] She observed in the flirtations between the American soldiers and British women a pattern of misunderstandings regarding who is supposed to take which initiative. She wrote of the Americans, "The boy learns to make advances and rely upon the girl to repulse them whenever they are inappropriate to the state of feeling between the pair", as contrasted to the British, where "the girl is reared to depend upon a slight barrier of chilliness... which the boys learn to respect, and for the rest to rely upon the men to approach or advance, as warranted by the situation." This resulted, for example, in British women interpreting an American soldier's gregariousness as something more intimate or serious than he had intended.[2]
Communications theorist Paul Watzlawick used this situation, where "both American soldiers and British girls accused one another of being sexually brash", as an example of differences in "punctuation" in interpersonal communications. He wrote that courtship in both cultures used approximately 30 steps from "first eye contact to the ultimate consummation", but that the sequence of the steps was different. For example, kissing might be an early step in the American pattern but a relatively intimate act in the English pattern.[6]
Japanese courtesans had another form of flirting, emphasizing non-verbal relationships by hiding the lips and showing the eyes, as depicted in much Shunga art, the most popular print media at the time, until the late 1800s.
The fan was extensively used as a means of communication and therefore a way of flirting from the sixteenth century onwards in some European societies, especially England and Spain. A whole sign language was developed with the use of the fan, and even etiquette books and magazines were published. Charles Francis Badini created the Original Fanology or Ladies' Conversation Fan which was published by William Cock in London in 1797. The use of the fan was not limited to women, as men also carried fans and learned how to convey messages with them. For instance, placing the fan near your heart meant "I love you", while opening a fan wide meant "Wait for me".[7]
In Spain, where the use of fans (called "abanicos") is still very popular today, ladies used them to communicate with suitors or prospective suitors without their family or chaperon finding out. This use was highly popular during the 19th and early 20th centuries.[8]
[edit] Cultures
Flirting varies a great deal from culture to culture. For example, for many western cultures one very common flirting strategy includes eye contact. In these cultures, it is said that a look can say a million words.[9] However, eye contact can have a very different meaning in some Asian countries. Men however may stare at Western women in such countries who might get in trouble if returning the glance. This act may mean that she is sexually interested instead of just flirting. Furthermore, Chinese and Japanese women are not expected to initiate eye contact which would be considered rude and disrespectful.[10]
The distance between two people is also important when flirting. People from the "contact cultures" such Mediterranean or Latin American may feel comfortable with closer distances whereas a British or Northern European person will need more space. Touching, especially of the hand or arm, is also part of flirting.[11] However, for Muslims, physical contact between men and women, except husband and wife or close family, is totally forbidden.
Types
A study in body languageFlirting may consist of stylized gestures, language, body language, postures, and physiologic signs which act as cues to another person. Among these, at least in Western society, are:
Eye contact, batting eyelashes, staring, winking, etc.
"Protean" signals, such as touching one's hair
Giggling, or laughing encouragingly at any slight hint of intimacy in the other's behavior
Casual touches; such as a woman gently touching a man's arm during conversation
Smiling suggestively
Sending notes, poems, or small gifts
Flattery (regarding beauty, sexual attractiveness)
Online chat, texting and other one-on-one and direct messaging services while hinting affection.
Footsie, a form of flirtation in which people use their feet to play with each others' feet. This generally takes place under a table or in bed while rubbing feet. Participants often remove their shoes and play barefoot; however, it can also be played in socks, or wearing shoes. Though this method can backfire, as the general opinion of feet can depend on the culture and society of the area.
Teasing
Banter
Staging of "chance" encounters
Imitating of behaviors, e.g. taking a drink when the other person takes a drink, changing posture as the other does, etc.
Coyness, affectedly shy or modest, marked by cute, coquettish, or artful playfulness, e.g. pickup lines.
Giving flying Kisses.
Singing love songs in presence of the Girl/Boy.
Maintaining very short distance during casual talking.
The effectiveness of these several interactions has been subjected to detailed analysis by behavioral psychologists, and advice on their use is available from dating coaches.
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