Its 2011 fellas… not only is it 2011 its mid 2011, enough is enough. It’s time you step your shit up. I know you’re tired of these aint shit bitches, always in your ear chewing you shit off on some tyson shit. But it’s not gonna change until YOU DO. You got to be a independent man. The more independent you are, the more a woman’s worth decreases in your life. And the more a woman’s worth decreases in your life, the more valuable the one that is worth it will be to you. You will also be able to determine how good a girl is for you much sooner than you would if you are caught in the whole dependent maze. Being dependent makes you vulnerable…and men shouldn’t be vulnerable. We should be powerful. When you are dependent of a woman she wraps you around her finger and everything is her way or the highway, you know why? Because you NEED HER. Fuck that, you’ll never find a good woman like that, unless you are rich with a status then a woman will be willing to do anything for you to share a piece of that wealth and light. So this one is for my regular niggas. Be A MAN, step your shit up. Cook, Clean after yourself, do your own laundry, iron your own clothes. Be financially responsible, read the bible. Know your worth! lol. It may sound crazy for a man to be tellin another man this but it’s the truth. Stop sweatin these females and being slaves to the pu**y. I promise you the ending is the exact same when you handle ya business olo. lol. Just everything before it is different. But fuck it, strip them of all their power, stay in control, and THEN watch your girl issues fade away…& watch how you end up with a woman who Compliments you. Rather than a bitch milking you or manipulating you. Alex Hitchens signing out.
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RT @sexijamaicanjan RT @TG8S Flirting can be dangerous. But so much fun.
This was a tweet I read from 2 girls on twitter that probably had a whole more bunch of people Retweet and agree.. and led me to wonder wtf is wrong with girls these days. Flirting leads to hurting…less you’re single. Now me knowing that women are never satisfied..it finally hit me, women want it all. They want everything. Reality is, you cant have everything. You can only have what you are willing to give up. Nothing comes without sacrifice in this world. In order to want everything of one thing..you have to be willing to give up everything on the back end. All the single girls complain about how they dont have a man, and the ones with a man secretly wish they were single or able to have there man and still prance around like they are single. The other day on twitter i asked ” What is the definition of flirting? ” here are a few of the answers I got ..
@GlammCrissMIA RT @imDMAC: What’s the definition of Flirting<---enticing another
@moneyyoung RT @imDMAC: What's the definition of Flirting ~ shoning lmao
Marquita Latrice - EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN DEFINTION OF FLIRTING...
WHAT I MIGHT CONSIDER CHEATIN ANOTHER MIGHT NOT..
Tiesha B. Chanel - Showing interest in someone and playful ways
Charlie F Miller - Something that a woman will do that she does not approve of her current partner of doing
Kimberly Carter - When u figure it out let me know, lol
After these answers I decided to do a lil research myself.. And wikipedia answered every question inside the question of flirting..
"Flirt" redirects here. For other uses, see Flirt (disambiguation).
"Would you take offense if I had the gall to plant a kiss on this beautiful shoulder?"
"You'll figure that out soon enough after the deed."Flirting is a common form of social interaction whereby one person obliquely indicates a romantic or sexual interest towards another. It can consist of conversation, body language, or brief physical contact. It may be one-sided or reciprocated (encouraged) with intentions of getting to know that person on a higher level.
Flirting may involve speaking and acting in a way that suggests greater intimacy than is generally considered appropriate to the relationship (or to the amount of time the two people have known each other), without actually saying or doing anything that breaches any serious social norms. This may be accomplished by communicating a sense of playfulness or irony. Double entendres, with one meaning more formally appropriate and another more suggestive, may be used.
While some of the subconscious signs are universal across cultures, flirting etiquette varies significantly across cultures which can lead to misunderstandings. There are differences in how closely people should stand (proxemics), how long to hold eye contact, and so forth.
People flirt for a number of reasons. It is often used as a means of indicating interest and gauging the other person's interest in a relationship. Alternatively, it may simply be a prelude to casual sex. In other situations, it may be done simply for amusement, with no intention of developing any further relationship. This type of flirting sometimes faces disapproval from others, either because it can be misinterpreted as more serious, or it may be viewed as "cheating" if the person is already in a romantic relationship with someone else.
Origin and history
The origin of the word flirt is obscure. The Oxford English Dictionary (first edition) associates it with such onomatopoeic words as flit and flick, emphasizing a lack of seriousness; on the other hand, it has been attributed to the old French conter fleurette, which means "to (try to) seduce" by the dropping of flower petals, that is, "to speak sweet nothings". While old-fashioned, this expression is still used in French, often mockingly, but the English gallicism to flirt has made its way and has now become an anglicism.
During World War II, anthropologist Margaret Mead was working in Britain for the British Ministry of Information and later for the U.S. Office of War Information, delivering speeches and writing articles to help the American soldiers better understand the British civilians, and vice versa. She observed in the flirtations between the American soldiers and British women a pattern of misunderstandings regarding who is supposed to take which initiative. She wrote of the Americans, "The boy learns to make advances and rely upon the girl to repulse them whenever they are inappropriate to the state of feeling between the pair", as contrasted to the British, where "the girl is reared to depend upon a slight barrier of chilliness... which the boys learn to respect, and for the rest to rely upon the men to approach or advance, as warranted by the situation." This resulted, for example, in British women interpreting an American soldier's gregariousness as something more intimate or serious than he had intended.
Communications theorist Paul Watzlawick used this situation, where "both American soldiers and British girls accused one another of being sexually brash", as an example of differences in "punctuation" in interpersonal communications. He wrote that courtship in both cultures used approximately 30 steps from "first eye contact to the ultimate consummation", but that the sequence of the steps was different. For example, kissing might be an early step in the American pattern but a relatively intimate act in the English pattern.
Japanese courtesans had another form of flirting, emphasizing non-verbal relationships by hiding the lips and showing the eyes, as depicted in much Shunga art, the most popular print media at the time, until the late 1800s.
The fan was extensively used as a means of communication and therefore a way of flirting from the sixteenth century onwards in some European societies, especially England and Spain. A whole sign language was developed with the use of the fan, and even etiquette books and magazines were published. Charles Francis Badini created the Original Fanology or Ladies' Conversation Fan which was published by William Cock in London in 1797. The use of the fan was not limited to women, as men also carried fans and learned how to convey messages with them. For instance, placing the fan near your heart meant "I love you", while opening a fan wide meant "Wait for me".
In Spain, where the use of fans (called "abanicos") is still very popular today, ladies used them to communicate with suitors or prospective suitors without their family or chaperon finding out. This use was highly popular during the 19th and early 20th centuries.
Flirting varies a great deal from culture to culture. For example, for many western cultures one very common flirting strategy includes eye contact. In these cultures, it is said that a look can say a million words. However, eye contact can have a very different meaning in some Asian countries. Men however may stare at Western women in such countries who might get in trouble if returning the glance. This act may mean that she is sexually interested instead of just flirting. Furthermore, Chinese and Japanese women are not expected to initiate eye contact which would be considered rude and disrespectful.
The distance between two people is also important when flirting. People from the "contact cultures" such Mediterranean or Latin American may feel comfortable with closer distances whereas a British or Northern European person will need more space. Touching, especially of the hand or arm, is also part of flirting. However, for Muslims, physical contact between men and women, except husband and wife or close family, is totally forbidden.
A study in body languageFlirting may consist of stylized gestures, language, body language, postures, and physiologic signs which act as cues to another person. Among these, at least in Western society, are:
Eye contact, batting eyelashes, staring, winking, etc.
"Protean" signals, such as touching one's hair
Giggling, or laughing encouragingly at any slight hint of intimacy in the other's behavior
Casual touches; such as a woman gently touching a man's arm during conversation
Sending notes, poems, or small gifts
Flattery (regarding beauty, sexual attractiveness)
Online chat, texting and other one-on-one and direct messaging services while hinting affection.
Footsie, a form of flirtation in which people use their feet to play with each others' feet. This generally takes place under a table or in bed while rubbing feet. Participants often remove their shoes and play barefoot; however, it can also be played in socks, or wearing shoes. Though this method can backfire, as the general opinion of feet can depend on the culture and society of the area.
Staging of "chance" encounters
Imitating of behaviors, e.g. taking a drink when the other person takes a drink, changing posture as the other does, etc.
Coyness, affectedly shy or modest, marked by cute, coquettish, or artful playfulness, e.g. pickup lines.
Giving flying Kisses.
Singing love songs in presence of the Girl/Boy.
Maintaining very short distance during casual talking.
The effectiveness of these several interactions has been subjected to detailed analysis by behavioral psychologists, and advice on their use is available from dating coaches.
Yes Yes D-Mac aka Alex Hitchens is here to give my relationship tips for the week. I usually seperate em and let my Stefan Urquelle side talk to the ladies and let my Hitch side holla at the fellas but today I decided to merge em both. I had a talk with my cousin the other day and we were discussing how the unfaithful creature they call women lol. He said something to me that I really found interesting.. ” You are more likely to cheat on someone you’ve been with for 2 years or more than someone you just started a relationship with” . In a sense I agree to this statement. He backed up his statement with saying how once the newness is gone girls (and guys) are looking for something new and exciting. I can agree to an extent because I’ve been a victim of this situation before. So to prevent this from occuring in you’re relationship this is what I advise.. FRIENDLY COMPETITION.
It doesn’t necessarily have to be said..but it must be done. If you are competiting to outdo one another you both will be ultimately happy. Try to outdo his last date that you enjoyed. Or her last gift. Make your surprise better than the one he gave you. This keeps the ” spicyness (as yall call it) going and the new guy doesn’t get a chance to exist and the backdoor stays LOCKED LOL. Now you can take my advice, or you can sit there and let him spoil you and you do nothing. When you get sent to that voicemail you already know what time it is.. he’s with the girl that messed around and took HIM on a date. till next time.. 1!
One of the 2 biggest issues us Men have with women is Pride & Ego. Fellas.. we gotta swallow the pride and put the ego aside in alot of cases if we want to protect ourselves. the times we use to much of either are the times we end up hurting them the most. Shoutsout to all the fellas who spoil the lady of their lives. I see ya! I’m with you 1000% but look here homie, before you go spend ya hard earned money.. Do your homework. There is never a day that goes by that your girl is not doing something she has no business doing. Be random, check the phone, check the texts, check the call log, hell even login her phone account online and see whats been erased if you gotta. I talked to my homie G-Eye and he told me I was shotout for this logic..alotta fellas say its a female move.. but that’s fine with me. While you getting that hair did, them nails done, buying outfits, filling her tank, and buying jewelry… the sidepiece (or pieces) is having a roasting party about you with his homeboys. How many niggas have you seen with a girl out in public holding her hand and you said to your homeboy “nawwwwwwwww I know he aint wifin that!!!”? Yeah..thats what I thought. Thank me later. Class is over.. now go do your homework.
– Alex Hitchens